This was my reply,
Fail to Plan…Plan to Fail.
I sometimes struggle with frustration in not accomplishing as much as I feel I want/need to. Definitely caring for my three kids, sustaining a functional household, creating and building a successful therapy business, and expanding my art career– the list is long. It seems I have eyes bigger than my calendar!
But, I have developed a few habits that create the recipe for me to accomplish my goals. First of all, I spend A LOT of time planning– making lists. My family even teases me about how everything has to go on the “List”, but without it, I would be lost! I find that with my short attention span, a list creates an outline for my day. This is a big reason why for me, planning helps immensely.
The night before each day, I review my list and visualize the next day’s flow.
In setting long, and short-term goals, the first step is to articulate exactly WHAT the big goal is. I define it. In that process, I try to make sure its SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time Based). Then I create a deadline.
Next, I backtrack and break each goal down into monthly (if necessary), weekly, and daily tasks. I add these tasks into my calendar. I use the Calendar on my iPhone and iMac, and iPad– so I see it in several places and all update automatically on iCloud- so they’re synced. I also write my daily tasks in a written notebook. I’m probably old-school, but the process of writing them down and physically crossing them off the list helps them feel more tangible for me.
I MAKE SURE that I do something, no matter how small, EVERY day to take a step toward that goal. I take a little bit of joy crossing it off my list, knowing I’m a tiny bit closer to the Big One. Sometimes, that requires me doing something I’m afraid of, or I dislike, but if its necessary to get the Big Goal done, it’s done– usually first thing in the morning.
And I allow those goals to be malleable. If I get close to the end, and I want to tweak it because I’ve learned more about it, or I feel differently about it, I change. Sometimes you don’t know what you want until you get close to the finish line!
Also, finally, (and this is something I’ve only figured out very recently) sometimes I can’t just force things like a pitbull to make them happen, no matter how hard I try. if I fall short because of things I couldn’t control, or even if I dropped the ball by getting ill, or unmotivated, or whatever, I know myself well enough now, to know I’m driven. So, I trust that natural tendency that I will push for what I want and trust myself enough to allow time and circumstances to line up.
And of course (and this has been tough for me to learn and accept), I surrender to the flow of the Universe. Maybe it didn’t work out because I need to learn something, or there’s something better waiting for me.
I find that when my goals were hard earned, I had to face a lot of fear or uncertainty, they are so much sweeter when I succeed.
Hope this helps and good luck reaching for the stars